The ultimate goal is for victims to reestablish their lives without the abusers and to get counseling that will help them deal with the emotional scars.
The best thing a third person such as a doctor, friend, neighbor, or family member can do is be supportive no matter what the victim chooses. The victim can't be rescued. He or she needs to be the one to make the decision to leave the abuser.
If the victim wants help, assist him or her in finding a safe place to stay. It could be the home of a friend or relative or an emergency shelter. Keep in mind that people who are emotionally abusive can be violent, even if they haven't caused physical harm in the past.
Individual psychotherapy and group therapy are very important. The victim needs to realize that he or she has value as a person. And he or she needs to learn how to recognize abuse. Talking to people with similar experiences can be helpful. The victim needs to heal mentally so that he or she is less likely to enter into another abusive relationship.
The abused person may have to move out of his or her home and find other living arrangements.
If the emotionally abused person has moved from his or her home, permanent arrangements may have to be made. The person may be able to return to his or her home if the abuser has gotten help and is not likely to continue to be abusive.
The victim may not be able to monitor the abuse because he or she may not recognize it when it happens. A family member or friend may help to monitor emotional abuse.